Isn’t it difficult to be a male avi in SL?

Maybe Man Cave?
Build: ✤Loft///Skybox – Dubu

City Walk Linocut Prints – Dark – DIGS || ✤Table – Long (gacha, ‘Boys Night In’ series) – Kalopsia || Old Box (Red) – Kalopsia

Middle, wall/ceiling
Toronto Study – Art (part of Toronto Set) – Bazar || T-Read Bookshelf – Wall Version – Consignment || Framed Fossils (sold separately) – Consignment @ Collabor88 || Jar Chandelier – Trompe Loeil || ✤Industrial Floor Lamp – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Stephenson Bookcase – DIGS || Belted Shelf – PILOT || ✤Parma short radiator – ARIA

Middle, living room
✤Lydia Sofa – ARIA || Cheriton Side Table (Gold) with Chess Set – {theosophy} Note: Chess set and side table can be used independently. Chess pieces are not playable || industrial coffee table – floorplan & Consignment || ✤Around the World in one Day Rug – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Clutter Book Pile (from ‘His Dressing Room (Clutter Set)) – Kalopsia || Clutter Ashtray & money (from ‘His Dressing Room (Clutter Set)) – Kalopsia || ✤Moroccan Leather Ottoman Brown (from ‘World Market’ Set) 22769 ~ [bauwerk]

Right side
Mill Collection – Windmill – Consignment || Olsen Television Unit – DIGS || ✤Game Station (gacha, ‘Boys Night In’ series) – Kalopsia || ✤Game Boxes (gacha, ‘Boys Night In’ series) – Kalopsia || ✤Steal cube with plant (from ‘The Reporter – Deko Set’) – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Palmerston Wall Hanging (Tuscan) – {theosophy} || Hanging Bulb -Triple – 7 Emporium || ✤Parma drafting table (texture change) – ARIA || ✤Parma draftsman stool – ARIA

EDIT: This skybox was @ Sanarae 13 that just closed today. Might take some time for it to be in Mainstore

Decking out a Man Cave is always so much fun. Whenever I have to dig for items to decorate a masculine space (or at least, masculine-ish to me), I always find hidden gems in my messy Inventory. 😀

You know, it’s great being a girl. Love it. It’s even awesome being a girl in SL, because almost every store and every event seems to cater to my gender.

When I made a malt, I thought it’d be fun to dress him up. Let me tell ya, shopping for dudes are not easy! There are top notch brands and events out there with menstuff, but there are not a lot of them. No wonder men in SL end up looking like near carbon copies of each other, they don’t have a huge pool of sources to dip into.

Except for splurging on a mesh body and head, my malt has remained topless. Let’s pretend it’s because I can’t find anything for him to wear *cough*No, seriously speaking, it’s because I couldn’t find an outfit that is ‘normcore normal’. I’m not into dressing my malt as a fratboy. I also have zero interest in dressing him as if he’s an alumni of an English boarding school. It seems like the prevalent looks and offerings in SL nowadays are limited to this two polar looks…or the more likely explanation is that I’m not looking hard enough given the dearth of content made for men.

Probably cos I’m too busy looking at the malt’s abs. 

You didn’t hear that from me.

K, let’s erm…move on to my attempt to shine the spotlight on male stuff inSL.

ZeeSL: Masculine Home Decors in Second Life

Men/Masculine Decor

Obviously, I’m going to start with a topic I’m most comfortable with: decor.

“Where to find mancave stuff in SL?”

“Sick of shabby chic, I need masculine decor!”


Ok, ok, we got this. Here are awesome places with a good selection of male-friendly homestuff, in terms of color pallete and aesthetics. (Skybox-only makers excluded).

What do I define as ‘good selection’? It’s when you can spot a number of male-friendly or male-usable stuff as soon as you land inworld. Instead of, you know, having to shift through 100000000 other products in the store to find maybe just one or two, you feel me?

And emphasis on inworld because if you browse some of the creators Flickr currently, you might think I’m nuts or don’t know the definition of ‘masculine’.

As usual, all links are correct at time of writing.

  • Pilot – Flickr | LM
  • Epia – Flickr | LM
  • Revival – Flickr | LM
  • Ex Machina – Flickr | LM
  • Junk – Flickr | LM
  • 22769~[bauwerk] – Flickr 1 | Flickr 2 | LM
  • N4RS – Flickr | LM
  • Kunst – Flickr | LM
  • CerberusXing – Flickr | LM
    • Concentrating more on avatar accessories currently, but go towards the back where the homestuff are.
  • Contraption – Flickr | LM
  • Standby Inc – Flickr | MP
    • Note: creator hardly in SL due to RL, so Customer Service might not be prompt
  • Consignment – Flickr | LM
  • 7 Emporium – Flickr | LM
  • Balaclava – Flickr | LM
  • Soy – Flickr | LM
  • Maru Kado – Flickr | LM
    • Not intentionally ‘male-centric’. Maru Kado aesthetics is more ascetic and Japanese Zen.
  • Toro – FB Page| LM
  • ARIA –Flickr | LM
    • Nearly everything ARIA makes comes with texture change options. So, even if an item is not overtly masculine at first glance, check the texture change options.
  • Theosophy – Flickr | LM
  • Pixel Mode – Flickr | LM
  • ADD Nomad – Flickr | LM

Zee: Men Events in Second Life

Men Event

Most major events do include unisex items. However, I’m only listing  events that are very specifically for men.

  • The Men’s Department – 5th of every month. The region also hosts stores that caters to male avatars
  • Men only Monthly– 20th of every month.
    • Run by the folks from Flair for Events, check out the Men Only page for more information on Men only Monthly and Men only Hunt.
    • They used to run Men Only Sale too, but it looks like that event is currently on hiatus.
  • Boys of Summer – Annually, in…well, summer. 😀
    • For dates, check out the event runner’s page Depraved Events.
    • Generally, any Depraved Events are awesome for guys because there are good selection of male-specific content.
    • Most of my hetero-coupling friends are big fans of Depraved Events because they can have romantic shopping day out, instead of having the boyfriends/husbands standing idly and commenting on demos LOL 😀

Zee: Men Subscription Boxes in Second Life

Subscription Boxes

Subscription boxes in SL are kinda like the ones we have in RL. Berry have a detailed information about all the subscription boxes currently in SL.

Men-centric subscription boxes so far?

Swagbag: Works by subscription kiosks. Crate is distributed to subscribers automatically on the 1st of each month. To subscribe, pay any Swagbag kiosks 1500L each month before the next one rolls around (For example, to get November Swagbag, pay the kiosk 1500L in October. Paying in October will not entitle you to the October crate.).

I love that you can even buy Gift Card to gift subscription to someone else. Check out some  cool Swagbag unboxing videos:

Treasure Chest: New! This fantasy/RP subscription box debuted a few days ago. Caveat: It’s not specifically for men. So why am I even mentioning it? Because if this first round is any indication of future rounds, that means a good portion of the items will work for both men and women avi. Join the Treasure Chest inworld group for 1500L between the (dates). On (date), group enrollment will close and the box will be distributed via group notice on the 23rd. You can check out some Treasure chest unboxing videos here:

For both Swagbag and Treasure Chest, the actual contents of the crate is kept secret until distribution day.

If you missed the enrollment/subscription period but would still like to have the items, crates are available for double the price.

As far as I am aware, items in the crate are exclusive to the particular crate, but designers can release a different coloured version outside of the crate.

Zee: A few male bloggers in SL

Male Bloggers

Let me preface this list by saying that there are a lot of exceptional male avatars who takes awesome pictures. Some of them are photographers (or pixographers, however you nitpicky folks like to say it) and not bloggers per se. Their end goal is self-expression and art instead of information. So I’ve excluded those.

Here’s a non-exhaustive list of male avatars who are current active bloggers (means they take pics and write out credits/info specifically for other people to copy the looks). These are just a few of them.  There are so many talented male bloggers out there it’ll take me forever to list ’em. 😀

Also, thanks Faith for suggesting some of these! 😀

Zee: Male Magazine & Feeds in Second Life

Publication & Feeds

L’Homme Magazine: I LOVE this mag. Production value is superb. Published every February, May, August and November.

Pour SL Homme Feed: As far as I am aware, there is no direct affiliation between L’Homme Magazine and Pour SL Homme Feed. Anyway, this feed is great to see a huge variety of male bloggers’ blog posts in one spot.

Male Specific Flickr Groups in Second Life

Flickr Groups

I have a love-hate relationship with Flickr groups. On one hand, it’s great to join a group that caters to specific niches. On the other hand, a lot of bloggers like to SPAM their irrelevant-to-the-group pictures in groups. Don’t do that, mmkay? That is annoying as hell.

So here’s a list of heavily moderated Flickr Groups for SL Men.


Phew, after a long hiatus from blogging, I sure do ramble on, don’t I?

This was a long blog post but I hope it was a helpful long blog post. 😀

Ok. See you in another 6 months!

(I kid, I kid. Maybe more like 3 years)

(No, really. I kid.)


Of Seeds and Windows

Of Seeds and Windows
Sadie’s Stools White & Black – Kalopsia @ Kustom9 || My little plant – Tokusa Red (from “My little pond and plants” set) – Maru Kado || lab vase tall- [ keke ] || summer bottle – silence – [ keke ] || Lightbulb Terrarium – Apple Fall || summer jar – hare – [ keke ]

“There is no one, says another, whom fortune does not visit once in his life; but when she does not find him ready to receive her, she walks in at the door, and flies out at the window.”
– Charles de Montesquieu

“Many a doctrine is like a window pane. We see truth through it but it divides us from truth. ”
– Khalil Gibran

“That one plant should be sown and another be produced cannot happen; whatever seed is sown, a plant of that kind even comes forth.”
– Guru Nanak

“With every deed you are sowing a seed, though the harvest you may not see.”
– Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Country Nook


Country Nook
Structure: Country Keep – Scarlet Creative
Left to right:
Grandfathers Clock Shelf – 22769 ~ [bauwerk]||Nellie Office Ladder – Second Spaces||Rustic Wall Shelf – Blonde – Willow Home||iFall (Early 2014) Media Edition – Apple Fall||Mason Jars & Notepad – Sari-Sari||wall desk. wood. – junk||Surfer’s Chair (gacha) – ChiMia||Pile of Stuff – HIDEKI||Pearl’s Birdie Cage – Vagabond||Sun Flowers in Milk Can – 22769 ~ [bauwerk]||Memory Chair (costumizable Pictures) – 22769 ~ [bauwerk]||tea tin – patience – [ keke ]||tea tin – courage – [ keke ]||tea tin – vitality – [ keke ]
In the background
Fiona Greenhouse – Trompe Loeil

Hello! Long time no see!

So, several things in no particular order and not necessarily related to this pic:

  1. I’ve run out of ability to name my photos and blog titles.
  2. It also sucks that I used to have a lot of things to say in posts…and now life is both hectic AND monotonous that I don’t have anything interesting to say.
  3. Work didn’t slow down in both worlds. RIP real me and virtual me.
  4. None of the items here are new or at events, so yay.
  5. This pic is not new either – I took it several months ago as this is the decor/landscaping for my SL twin…and then see #2 and #3.
  6. I bought my first ever sewing machine last weekend, much to my Mother’s amusement. I’m a shoo in for prime spot in a retirement center, I think.
  7. Which might not be a bad thing because the last retirement center I visited (as a guest ok, not as a prospective!) looked like a nice place. Gym, pool, game room, cafe…they’re living it up!
  8. Speaking of which, I’m already planning all the things I will sew for my 63 grandkids. Context: I’m 31 and I have no kids of my own…nor do I desire any. So I’m not sure how I will go about having 63 grandkids but hey, planning is the essence, no?
  9. It’s cold. I do not like winter. (It’s that season my side of the world)
  10. I have no point #10, I just didn’t want to end at 9. Actually, not that I had any point from 1-9.

Shouldn’t You All Be Outside?


Shouldn't You All Be Outside?
From left to right

Climbing Rose Vine (Emerald) – +Half-Deer+ || Tropical plant – TORO || Vintage Storage Boxes – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Suitcase Shelf – Fetch || Arch Papers in baskets – Consignment || With love pile – Zigana || Arrow Curtains – Kalopsia || Faux Window – Unicorn Dreams (High Blinds) – Half-Deer || Secret Garden Bunny – Snow – Better View – Half-Deer || Deer Paintbrush Holder – Natural – Half-Deer || Organic Computer – Mouse (Light) – Half-Deer || Tamsin’s Desk Set (Desk, Chair, Pile of books, notepad and table plant) – Kalopsia || Lisbeth Books & Tea Decor – {what next} || flottante puppy. milk . layB / withCollar – {anc} || Secret Garden Bunny – Peach – Look Around – Half-Deer || Bird Cage Floor Lamp – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || flottante puppy. milk . layA / withCollar – {anc} || Secret Garden Bunny – Latte – Lay Down – Half-Deer || Blossoming Birdcage – Powder Blue – Half-Deer || Pallet Art Eiffel Tower – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Memory Chair (preloaded Pictures) – 22769 ~ [bauwerk] || Secret Garden Bunny – Latte – Stand – Half-Deer

Guess what?

It’s May.


Where did the first 4 months of 2016 disappeared to? It seems like life is moving at a breakneck speed.

Being an old woman (har har), I don’t have a lot of interesting things to say nowadays. Both lives are busy as usual…or busier. I struggle to find time to just ‘do random things.

So until the next ‘free’ time, take care of yourself! ❤


Floating Dreams

Floating Dreams
Tree: Dryad Hideaway- Jian || Plants: Cattails – Dysfunctiona Designs
Iron Egg Chair – Kalopsia @ Project 7 || Xiong Mao / Panda – I’m on a Boat! (Blue Origami) – Half-Deer
From Cubic Cherry Kreations @ The Gathering Gacha
Waterliliy Spirit Pink RARE || Waterliliy Spirit Lilac RARE || 08{Waterlilly} bubbles sky || 07{Waterlilly} bubbles pink || 11{Waterlilly} flower white || 10{Waterlilly} half-bubble black || 16{Waterlilly} petals B white

Say it once, say it twice, say it ten times fast:

“The dreaming dreamer dreams
the dream he doesn’t dream
to dream but doesn’t dream
the dream he dreams to dream.

So, when the dreaming
dreamer dreams the dream
he doesn’t dream to dream but
doesn’t dream the dream
he dreams to dream, he dreams
not to dream any dream anymore.

But when the dreaming
dreamer dreams the dream he
dreams to dream, he dreams
to continually dream more
dreams to dream.”